Something I am not very good at is accepting others' judgments. I've had some wonderful comments from lovely people who have displayed great kindness or at least caring sensitivity. Writing is a personally revealing process. On the other hand, there have been negative and destructive comments on odd occasions that I'm sure weren't intended personally, or at least reportedly so, but cut to the quick. Constructive criticism has been very helpful for which I am thankful.
'kitchen table stories'
An American fellow writer suggested that my stories were like hearing a tale told across the kitchen table. I like the suggestion that they were relatable in an informal way - I never intended that they were classics but rather entertaining.
One of the ways to regard judgments of your work is to consider from whom the criticism is coming. How are they qualified? From what experiential level are they coming? More bluntly, what is their aim? Rather a defensive viewpoint, but if you consider that it is just a part of the human condition you will get passed the emotional response to being judged and either consider the words or simply ignore them.
The bottom line is to accept that to avoid being the subject of another person's hang-ups, opinions and biases you have to stop putting your work out there. But, if you enjoy the process, don't give too much credit to the judgment of others.
God Bless
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